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Sunday, December 10, 2006

blame game

One of the meanings of the word blame is to place the responsibility for a fault, error, accident or action on someone or something. The problem with humans is that even though a situation might be their own fault, they blame it on someone else – this starts at a very young age and for some it continues for a lifetime. Many variations of the ‘blame game’ are played, but they are basically all the same – someone or something else is at fault for all of the wrong things that have happened to the person doing the blaming.

The problem with any variation of the ‘blame game’ is that it is circular in its effects and never comes to a conclusion. The answer and the only way to end this problem is that a person must take responsibility for their own needs, wants, pain and their actions. To even blame someone who abused or hurt them in childhood is not going to help a person heal, nor will it help them meet their present needs. Stop blaming anyone or anything else – look to yourself – and then a little further.

This game even goes into the area of the spiritual and others are blamed for one’s own lack of morality and self-control. When one’s life is ruined, they can point the finger of blame to the ones that tempted them and led them astray – even God Himself is blamed for making them the way they are. A verse of scripture states the real truth like this – “A man’s own folly ruins his life, yet his heart rages against the Lord.”

So what’s the answer? A person should first make things right with the One that loves them enough to allow His only Son to be the sacrificial offering for all the wrong things they have ever done. Then and only then can a person see clearly enough to make things right with humans they have wronged or wrongfully accused – and then they must take responsibility for their own actions, and with God’s help the blame game can finally end. ec


Blogger Brenda said...

Wise words!

12/10/2006 09:46:00 PM  
Blogger Kila said...

Good lesson; thanks for the reminder.

12/10/2006 11:34:00 PM  
Blogger Sometimes Saintly Nick said...

“Blaming” seems to be a primary and universal defense mechanism that is learned very early in life—unless one has unusually competent parents.

12/10/2006 11:44:00 PM  
Blogger Merle said...

Hi Mr. Eddie ~~ The blame game - not a fun game and usually makes the one doing the blaming feel worse. We have to take responsibility for our own
actions and to do better with our lives. I loved the Fishing Post and it is odd that you remember the makeshift catches better than the
"real" fishing rod catches. But the fact you earned it, meant a sense of
achievment. Thanks for your comments, I see power failure occurs in the cold as well as in the heat.
Take care, Merle.

12/11/2006 02:56:00 AM  
Blogger mreddie said...

brenda - Yes - God always has the answer to any of our needs.

kila - I've noticed over my life that I have had to learn some lessons several times.

SSN - I've noticed with my young 'grands' that when asked who did some hurtful thing, they usually blame the other one.

merle - So true, it is a tough lesson to take responsibility for one's own actions - and some never learn. It is odd how some things, like this about the fishing rod, come back so clearly and sometimes I can't remember last week. ec

12/11/2006 09:34:00 AM  

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